Cultivating an embodied experience of support - a physical experience of feeling connected - is an essential part of feeling safe in the world. And when we feel safe in the world, we lower stress and anxiety and our lives become much more expansive. In other words, one of the most direct ways to calm your nervous system and expand your window of tolerance, is to acknowledge and nurture the places where you feel connected and supported.
Read MoreWhen you're feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed, your nervous system is dysregulated and you are likely in either fight, flight or freeze. In this state of dysregulation, your vision is narrow and you tend to overreact, make poor decisions, and generally feel terrible! So what can you do to come back to regulation, relaxation and homeostasis?
Read MoreI'm at it again so if you missed it last year, here's your chance to jump in!
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I’ve channeled my deepening mission to help all people feel safe and supported into a 30-day intensive that is wholly focused on supporting a healthy nervous system and the experience of calm, connection and self-compassion that comes with it.
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Read MoreHave you read about the 75-year Harvard study on happiness? It has been quite the buzz lately. The clearest message to come out of the study is that good relationships keep us happier, healthier and living longer.
Read MoreLast week, I was asked to speak about the link between vulnerability, the nervous system and the window of tolerance on FB Live. I’ll start by saying that speaking on FB Live is an actual-real-life example of me working to stay calm while vulnerability is threatening to kick me out of my window of tolerance!
Read MoreWhether you've know me for years or are new to my community, you might like a reminder of what it is I actually do. So here goes.
I help people decrease stress, fear and anxiety, increase well-being and life-satisfaction and grow states of calm, connection and compassion.
How I do it….
Now that we’ve all had a minute to take a post-holiday breath, I wanted to send you a wholehearted wish for a sweet, tender, grateful, hopeful, creative, joyful, love and connection filled 2023. Whether we've know each other for decades or haven't yet met, I truly want to support you in having a wonderful year.
One of the practices that always support me as I make this transition is to reflect on three questions:
I know sometimes life feels overwhelming or painful or dull or just flat out unenjoyable. So let me start by saying that gratitude is not about putting on rose-colored glasses and pretending life is perfect and all of our needs are met and we’re just so lucky, and we shouldn’t complain because other peoples lives are harder, etc. etc. Doesn’t that feel more like gaslighting than gratitude?
Gratitude is not about covering up the hard stuff. It’s about orienting towards what’s good…
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